Giving birth to a little girl was a dream come true as I always wanted a daughter that I can share everything with and create a bond that I wish I had with my own mother. As she gets older and develops her identity I’ve noticed how kind and sensitive she is. She cares about others and how people perceive her which is astonishing for a 6-year-old. I often see myself when I look at her and quickly flashback to my teenage years when I wasn’t as happy. I remember those years as if they were yesterday and I want to take these experiences and share them in today’s Heart-To-Heart, a letter to my teenage daughter, so here it goes…
You’re a teenager now and might think high school is end all be all but the truth is, it’s not. You’re a young lady and these are a few things I’ve learned along the way that I thought you should know to help you be the best person that I know you can be. These situations were things I have personally been through and I want you to listen.
Beauty– I look at you and think you’re the most beautiful girl in the world but don’t let your looks define who you are. A beautiful person can be defined in so many ways that exclude your exterior so explore that. Read, travel, and never stop learning. Your mind and heart are the two most beautiful things a person can own.
Self Worth– Know your worth! Never allow someone to make you feel bad about yourself. Never stand for physical or verbal abuse from a friend, spouse, teacher, coach, etc. Do not make excuses for someone who treats you unkind and unethical. Only you can dictate your worth so stand up for yourself, be strong and know when to walk away from someone who doesn’t acknowledge your worth.
Peer Pressure– So many times I was left in situations that were uncomfortable for me due to the pressure from my peers but I never wanted to feel left out. When I look back on those situations, they were small, petty and absurd. I regret them but what I learned is to trust yourself. If you feel that you’re in a particular situation that has made you feel uncomfortable, then get out of it or don’t do it! If you lose friends over it, then they were never your friends, to begin with. Be the leader of the band and not a member.
Confidence– If your dad and I did our job correctly then this is probably one of the best gifts we could give you. As a young adult your filled with insecurities and doubt but don’t be. Never feel that you’re ballet is not good enough, your body type is not perfection, or that you’re not smart enough to get the job. You’re perfect the way you are, be confident about the young lady that you have blossomed into. Always walk into a room a room with your head held high, look someone in the eye when they are speaking and tell yourself that you are good enough to do anything you put your mind to.
Believe in yourself– This goes hand and hand with confidence. If you don’t believe in yourself then who will? You owe no one anything except yourself so believe in the power to conquer your biggest dreams and don’t let anyone stand in your way.
Relationships- It’s hard to believe that you will be dating one day but those are the facts of life. I’m sorry to tell you this but you and your high school sweetheart will probably not make it after the first semester of college. With that said, it’s really important for me to give you this advice. Teenage relationships can be draining and full of petty drama. Don’t ever allow anyone to make you feel like you are their property! Never allow the person you’re dating to tell you where to go, what to eat, what to wear or whom to hang out with. Demand respect because you’re worth it.
Communicate- If something is bothering you, tell me! I will never judge you or punish you for telling me your feelings. Don’t keep things bottled up as this can cause serious emotional issues. Your parents will always be here for you, so talk to us.
Failure- Don’t be afraid of failure. Some of the most successful people in the world have failed at least once. Learn from it and carry it over into your next venture. Don’t look at it as failing but as a learning experience. I have failed several times before I found my niche and I attribute my past experiences to my current situations which have helped me to succeed in life.