Listen up moms. We all have to take a day off. The calendar says so.
I never imagined that my life could feel so full until London came into it. Cut to 6 and a half years later, and I have two kiddos, plastic toys on my living room floor, and baby food stains on my t-shirts. Motherhood is a constant mixture of exhaustion and pride, chaos and cuddles, love and worry. You expend an unfathomable amount of energy when you’re not only in charge of your own needs, but also those of, say, a rambunctious six-year old and a one-year old who has just learned to walk. And is it just you, or does he seem to accelerate when you say “no”?
Every year, Mother’s Day rolls around to remind us that we deserve a guilt-free day of self-indulgence and relaxation. It’s a little bit like a second birthday you’re automatically issued when you give birth to your first kiddo. “Here’s your baby and a coupon that never expires for an annual holiday to celebrate your new job.”
It’s the only job I know of that offers a single vacation day. And you’re still on-call.
Motherhood is a 24/7, pager on your hip, tattoo on your face type of deal, but it’s also the most fulfilling job you’ll ever do. However, every mama deserves to give herself a pat on the back for simply, being a mom and doing the best she can.
Want to know a juicy secret about Mother’s Day? You don’t have to celebrate it with your kids! Sure, you should do something together. Have brunch or go see a show. Let them pamper you if they have things planned. But you also get to celebrate this day in whatever way you choose. Calling all hardworking supermoms: leave the kids with your friend, a babysitter or your hubby, and give yourself permission to do something that you never, ever have time to do. If you’re at a loss for how to spend it, these are some classic ways to treat yourself this Mother’s Day.
Book The Massage
The spa is always a good idea. There is nothing quite like giving yourself an outing where the sole goal is to feel more relaxed. Go get a massage, sit in a jacuzzi, get a facial, and wear one of those robes that feel like it’s made of actual clouds. Spend the money on yourself because you’re worth it.
Buy The Shoes
Treat yourself to a new something. Maybe it’s a pair of heels you’ve been drooling over or the designer bag you’ve been wanting for months. If you rarely get to shop for yourself, or by yourself, take the afternoon off mom-duty and buy yourself some pretty things.
Paint The Town Red
Call your girlfriends and plan a night out on the town. Sometimes you need your girl gang to remind you what it’s like to be a kid yourself. It’s exhausting having to always being the adult in the room. Go out with your girls and enjoy more than one or two margaritas without worry.
Make A Getaway
I took a solo vacation to Miami a few weeks back, and it was one of the best self-care decisions I’ve made in a long time. If you’re able to get away for a weekend, take a little solo trip and do something out of character. Reserve your place at the yoga retreat you’ve always only half considered. Go on a road trip to a little town you’ve always wanted to visit. Switching up your surroundings is always an exciting way to refresh, recharge, and enjoy your own company.
Take a Staycation
If you were reading the above paragraphs and thinking to yourself, “that sounds nice but also sounds like a lot of work,” maybe you just want to do…nothing. Book a night in a hotel or bed and breakfast in the city that you live in and just enjoy some quiet time alone. Watch bad reality TV, read the book you haven’t had time to touch, order room service, and sing in the shower. The best part? You can do it all without interruptions. Or maybe the best part is that you don’t have to clean up? It’s a tie.
I hope all you mamas are able to get some R&R and give yourself the gift of self-care this Mother’s Day. You do the best you can for your kids every day. Take a day to give yourself the best.