17 Jan Get To Know Me
Many of you have been curious about how I started this blogging journey as well as my background. I wanted to publish more of a personal lifestyle post today to chat about who I am and what lead me to this career path. I like to be transparent, relatable and honest so let me take you to the beginning.
Who Are you?
For the last 2.5 years you have gotten to know me and my daughter through the screens of social media but how much do you really know? Often times, people make assumptions based on what they see on social platforms but most often it is far from the truth. I’m a content creator and carefully curate what I want others to see. I’m just like any other person with family issues, best friend arguments or parent struggles. I wasn’t raised wealthy and damn sure didn’t have a trust fund handed to me when I turned 21. I dropped out of college my junior year because I couldn’t afford it and I didn’t have a backup plan. I was originally born in LA, CA but raised in NYC. My mom moved to a different state every year but we always managed to circle right back to NY. We didn’t move around because she was in the military but because she just couldn’t sit still. Can you imagine changing schools and being the “new girl” every year? It was rough on me as I got older and it didn’t help that I went to really rough schools. I was teased and bullied for having curly hair or not dressing the part. At one point in my life I lived with my dad for a year in Florida and he rather die than buy me a pair of Jordans. His favorite stop for back-to-school shopping was Payless, Swap Shop Flea Market and the thrift store. I literally wanted to move out at the age of 13 and get a job so I could purchase my own clothes.
I was obsessed with fashion and it was my outlet to get away from the chaos in my life. I expressed myself through what I wore and at times I would sport combat boots and boyfriend shirts that I would find in my dads closet. I altered my clothes to make them work so no one would notice that I didn’t have sparkly new duds. I’ve always been creative, outspoken and tried to make friends easily. I was obsessed with Track and Field and began running when I was 8 years old. I conditioned and trained all year-long and would get away from the world when I stepped foot on the track. I stopped running when I graduated from high School and felt that 10 years was more than enough plus my knees were falling apart!
I moved out when I was 17 and hustled my way through life. Job after job, I hated them all and couldn’t find the right fit. When I turned 20 I was offered a small bartending job in the city and I took it immediately. I ended up having a million bartending jobs and quickly became involved in the fast-paced city life. I hung out with a new crew, traveled more and experienced a much more exciting life. I met new people gained new friends and experienced some of the most elaborate NYC parties and events that I could only dream of. I was young and literally having the time of my life but somehow the years flew by. I remember turning 28 and wanted more for myself, I wanted more stability in my life but didn’t know where to start.
I went on a girls trip to Costa Rica for ten days and had the time of my life. During the last day there I met my baby daddy. I remember being so cranky and bitchy that I hardly wanted to talk to him. He quickly gained my attention through his witty sense of humor and taste in old hip hop/ R&B lyrics. He’s Canadian so we began a long distance relationship which I loved because I’m a big fan of space between couples. We dated for a while before we were surprised with the news that we were expecting. I was in shock and not ready for a child at all. Most importantly, I wasn’t prepared to lose my identity to take on the new role of motherhood.
After I had Scout, I still wanted to be young and fun. I made sure we still went to popular restaurants and had fun nights out. I was determined to figure out a way that I can do both. I started an online accessory store by the name of Required Flare as well as a Social media company called Social Media Mall. I worked for myself but being a new mom with two companies became hard so I gave up my accessory line. I remember feeling as if I failed and felt defeated. I needed a creative outlet so I began to blog about children’s fashion and my daughter. I had no idea anyone would be remotely interested but 9 months later, a writer from Buzzfeed posted an article. Our site went viral which left me talking to Ellen DeGeneres and the Today Show on certain days. I was at a point in my life where I really had no idea what I was doing but I knew that I’m either going to sink or swim. I utilized everything I knew from my first business and created a beautiful blog and a successful pitch. The hours are nonstop and it takes a lot of dedication but if you can stick it out, the possibilities are endless!
I could go on for pages about who I am and how I have morphed into the person I am today because of my past but I’ll base that on how you feel about today’s post. If you would like to hear more, then leave me a comment below and I will update this post next week.
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