Everyone has that one struggle that gnawed at them as a kid. I don’t know anyone who breezed through elementary school, middle school and high school, without having a battle to fight or bias to overcome. For me, that struggle revolved around diversity and inclusion at school. I didn’t look like the other girls in my class, and I felt very self-conscious about it. I spent years straightening my hair so I could “fit in”. I was embarrassed to sport my natural curls and felt like an outcast. It doesn’t sound like the end of the world, but when you’re young you pick up on those things that make you different and perceive those distinctions as a bad thing.
I lived with this feeling my entire life and It wasn’t until after London was born, that I really started to embrace my natural curls. I looked at my daughter’s gorgeous curls and was determined to be her role model. When I looked at London I had a flashback of those unhappier days and I decided that she will never feel that way. Now that I’m comfortable in my own skin I realize that my curly Q’s make me unique and it’s incredibly important to me that I raise London with this same mindset. Our kids pick up on so much without us realizing it. If I never let my hair fall in its natural curly glory, what kind of example would I be setting for LS? I’ve always taught her to be confident and never let anyone make her feel inferior. She knows that it’s important to like the way she looks on the outside, but even more so, to always be kind and beautiful on the inside. When I was pregnant with Rio Dash, I thought about the importance of this inner strength again, and I plan to raise him the same way.
Maybe some of us figure out how to stand up to our own insecurities or struggles long before becoming a parent. Maybe other times having a child is the catalyst that gets us to examine our own mentalities so we can pass on a healthy mindset to our little ones.
Either way, it takes a strong parent to raise a strong kid.
Procter & Gamble recently released an inspirational video for the 2018 Olympics that embodies this very subject, called Love Over Bias. Everybody faces his or her own personal struggle, and this video is a testament to parents everywhere who have worked hard to bring up kind and resilient kids. Make sure you have some tissues ready because this will pull at your heartstrings whether you’re a parent or not. Either way, it’s definitely worth a watch.
Check the video out here:
Thanks for listening everyone!
This post was sponsored by Procter & Gamble, but all opinions are 100% my own.